Kisah Bangkok #Taxi 2

Ok, lepas dpat pengalamn taxi gatal.. nak balik nye pulak, dapat taxi yang terlebey peramah jugak. tp peramah yang baik.

Dr naik taxi berhenti tnya mcm2. Dari mana lah, buat apa lah, mcm2 lagi lah. smpai kami xlrat nk layan.

So, kami borak la bhsa Melayu.

"hey2, no speak malayu. english plis. Dont understand" 

haaaa... amek kau. Bizi body btol pak cik ni... nk dnga sume org ckap..haha

"ish..pak cik ni byk bunyi plak"

"munyi?? munyi?? what is munyi2??" 

adeyh pak cik. kenapa peramah sgt ni.

Kisah Bangkok #Taxi 1

Transport utama sepanjang kat Bangkok ni adalah taxi.

sebab taxi warna warni- pink bandung, merah, kuning jagung, hijau, biru, purple, oren. plus, taxi metre lg jimat. minus the fact kne ckp mcm ayam ngn itik. 

oleh sebab selalu sgt naik taxi, macam-macam lah kejadian yang berlaku. 

seram, kelakar, takut, sakit hati, rase nak terjun taxi, dan sebagainya. but mostly kelakar la bila igt balik. 

kisah by kisah 

*harap maklum, kisah yg diceritakan tidak mengikut aturan masa (timeline)

#Kisah kelakar + takut

Ok, one day, kami ni bercdng lah pergi Red Cross fair, sbb kwn suggest. So, nak pergi tu ambil taxi sbb da mlm, jauh jugak. Bukan main byk taxi, tapi xda yg nk hantar. sebab kami ckp pon diorg xpham. so, kami suh la kwan thai yg ckapkan dgn driver taxi. 

Lucky, dpat taxi slepas beberapa trial. 

maka bermulalah adegan yang seram (bila igt jadi kelakar)

Taxi driver ni terlebey peramah. Dia bole ckp English. ok, kira hebat lah tu. tp, yang xbest nya, bertubi2 soalan yg kami xbole nk jwab. 

1. Do u like pig?? 

"whatt???"

2. Can u drink beer??

"-______-"

3. Hey you!!! Do u have boyfriend?? Thaiboy? 

"errr...."

4.What u wear(tudung)?? do man wear same-same? 

"nope"

5.DO u like to go to pub?? 

@_@

6.Hey!! You!! You!! what ur name?

7. Do u eat dog? Lets eat dog! I saw Malaysia eat dog. 

(xtaw mne die tgok) 

"Lets go to pub!! No problemmm!!!"

sakonahon tol pak cik ni!

Sampai je trus trun, baya tros. xpandang blkng dah!. 

#kisah 2

............................................
"Weh, kau ni kenapa? Dia da tinggalkan kau kan. Kenapa kau nak nangis-nangis pulak ni? Ni bukan first time kan? banyak kali da aku cakap kat kau, jangan balik dengan dia tu semula. Kau degil."

Air mata mencurah-curah.

"kau nak makan ke tak? penat aku masak Maggi tom yum ni taw. Menangis je. Bukan kenyang!" sambil menghirup kuah tom yum.

Menarik sehelai tisu dan menyapu air mata.

"Dah la, malas aku nak layan. Lambat aku habiskan"

"Aku lapar la" tersedu-sedu

"Lapar makan. Bukan menangis!" 

Mencapai sudu di tangan aku dan menghirup kuah tom yum.

"Ek, eleh. Aku tak suruh kau nangis pon." Senyum kecil. Dalam hati "SPM pon tak lepas lagi. Sibuk nak bercinta bagai buat apa. Lepak sudah. kan senang hidup macam aku ni" 

"kau cakap apa?"

"hah???" melopong.. "Aku ada cakap apa-apa ke?" Aku cakap dalam hati je. macam mana bole dengar.

"Da kau mengomel je, mana aku faham" ketawa sambil tepuk bahu.

"weh, tersedak la aku!!"  reti pon senyum. Sebab lelaki nak muram-muram. menyampah aku. "Nasib baik la kau tengah sedih. kalau tak, aku da balas."  senyum.

.........................................

".................................., for Malaysian, welcome home"

"Welcome home love" bahuku ditepuk.

"Opocot!" eh, melatah plak.

Ketawa. Aku tersipu malu. "Xclass betul melatah macam tu" mengutuk diri sendiri.

"Laa, da sampai rupanya." tiba-tiba darah menyerbu ke muka.



Selepas mengutip semua luggage yang ada, menyorong troli dengan perasaan gundah. Di pintu ketibaan, emak, ayah dan sanak saudara melambai-lambai.

"Emak!! Ayah!!" lupa sekejap di hadapan orang ramai. Drama sungguh. Sanak saudara yang lain kebetulan menunggu pak cik pulang mengerjakan umrah. "jangan nak perasan semua orang nak tunggu kau lah" malu sendiri.


Tiba-tiba...




To be continue...



#sekecil-kecil udang geragau, pabila bersatu menjadi belacan. sedap!

#kisah 1

Hati berdebar.. sudah berbulan lamanya tidak menjejakkan kaki ke tanah air tercinta.  Meninjau ke luar tingkap Boeing 274, awan seindah gula-gula kapas. Putih seputih salju. Lautan luas seluas saujana.

"Agaknya, siapa yang akan menuggu di KLIA nanti?" soalan itu berlegar di minda.. air mata yang mula berlinang diseka.

"There is no place like home" Tanpa sedar, suara terluah dari bibir. Penumpang di sebelah menoleh.

"sorry?"

"oh, no no, I was talking to myself" tersipu malu.

"I guest you had been away from home for long time" senyumam yang mesra

"yes, I did. I miss everything about Malaysia" senyuman terukir.

"I'm surely someone special is waiting for you at the airport dear" senyuman itu makin lebar.

"I hope so" memaksa diri untuk senyum. "welcome to Malaysia, I guest you from Florida?"

"yeah, you're rite" ketawa kecil. "How do you know?"

"You're holding your passport" jelas tertulis United States of America di hadapan passport nya.

 "but, how you know exactly I'm from Florida?" kerutan halus di dahinya.

"I can read minds" membalas selamba.

"Really!!?" tersentak penumpang yang tidur di sebelahnya. Perempuan itu berpaling dan menyambung tidurnya. Mabuk udara mungkin.

Membalas dengan senyuman. Matanya pula terbeliak menanti jawapan.

"I'm just kidding, I stand besides you at the counter just now. I heard you" tawa kecil.

terhambur tawa di bibirnya. "Thanks dear, you make my day. I'm so clumsy" ketawa di bibirnya masih bersisa.

Ketawa kecil. Cukup sekadar menyembunyikan resah di hati.

"I think i disturb you dear, sorry" katanya.

"Hah??" kali ini, aku pula tersentak.

"You seem gloomy, sad. I think I talk too much" muka bersalah.

"Oh, no no. I just remember something" menutup galau perasaan

"I don't know your problem dear, but be truthful to yourself" senyuman manis di wajahnya.

kata-kata seorang yang tidak aku kenali menusuk perasaan. Senyuman terukir. Tanpa paksaan.

Dia tertawa kecil dan meminta izin untuk tidur supaya segar apabila menjejakkan kaki ke Malaysia buat kali pertama nanti.

Membuang pandangan ke luar tingkap.

"Love is a strength, Love is not a weakness" 

Merapatkan kelopak mata, mengetap bibir, mengharapkan air jernih itu tidak akan mengalir lagi.

Kisah aku dan anjing

Anjing adalah haiwan yang comel.. kan??

see... adorable sangat kan.. ^^, 

ok..itu anjing yang comel..dan dalam sangkar.. 

How bout anjing liar yang merayau-rayau? seriously, dekat Bangkok ni bersepah anjing. Ok, jujur lah..aku takut anjing..kecuali Tom (anjing dekat tempat aku stay, sebab dia asik tidur je, xkacau orang pun). Tapi kalau dia berlari aku takut jugak. Takut kena gigit. dah la kena gigit..nanti nak kena samak pulak..kan susah tu. 

Aku dekat Bangkok ni da 3bulan lebih.. 2bulan pertama aku mula xtakut anjing. sebab xda anjing kacau aku. boleh la lalu sebelah anjing tidur.. dah xtakut sangat. Tapi..sejak ada sorang kat lab aku kena gigit anjing, aku mula takut balik dengan anjing. Siapa xtakut kena gigit. Gigi anjing tu tajam kan.. luka besa pulak tu. Kesian sangat dengan orang yang kena gigit tu. Ok, sejak tu.. aku dah mula beware semula dengan anjing. Mata dah makin tajam nak tengok anjing dari jauh. 

Alkisah.. beberapa hari lepas, aku pergi makan.. lepas makan beli air, buah.. buat makan sambil jalan. dengan borak-borak lenggang kangkung lagi. Sampai dekat depan bangunan tempat solat, aku berhenti. sebab dekat depan aku ada seekor anjing. dia tengah jilat-jilat badan. aku nak jalan tapi takut. aku berhenti je depan dia. tiba-tiba die menyalak dan menyeringai. ok, this is the funny part.. 

LARIII!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ok..sambil lari air tumpah jugak dekat badan sendiri.. 

hahahahaha... lari berterabur sangat. dah xpandang kiri kanan.. yang penting lari. Nasib lah masa tu xda kereta lalu. kalau x, mungkin jugak kena tahan wad sebab kena langgar kereta. lepas je lintas jalan, aku capai sebatang kayu. confident gila lah anjing tu takut. 

tiba-tiba anjing tu menyalak, panggil kawan dia pulak. Kurang ajar punya anjing tempang. Ok, die xtakut sangat sebab die tempang..lari pun xlaju sangat. tapi kawan die warna coklat, besar lagi dan gagah. itu sangat takut.. 

kami menjerit kuat dah..tapi xda orang datang pun.. kesian. nak lintas jalan dekat situ Tempang tu tunggu. jadi nya..kami pun pusing lah jalan jauh. sangat kurang ajar tempang tu. 

ok, lepas je peristiwa tu.. anjing tidur pun aku takut. bunyi angin pon aku cepat-cepat paling takut anjing kejar. paranoid gila lah. 

hahaha.. kena cari tips untuk elak kena kejar anjing lah. 

Oh..baik sungguh.

pernah x jumpa orang yang terlebih baik? buat baik dengan anda tanpa ada sebab? 

Aku kenal seorang ni.. baik sangat kot. Never say no to others. Walaupon dia tengah susah..walaupon dia tengah ada kerja, walaupon dia tengah ada hal.. Dia tetap akan tolong. kadang-kadang tanpa perlu minta tolong pon. 

Aku xtahu kenapa dia baik sangat.. aku xbole lah orang baik sangat ni. Bila nak minta tolong rasa xsampai hati. Bila aku minta tolong dengan dia, dia tolong bersungguh-sungguh. lepas siap tolong ucap terima kasih lagi dekat aku. Ok, aku keliru jugak, siapa tolong siapa sebenarnya. 

Mungkin dia memang baik kot. Aku buat kerja memang tunggang langgang.. as undergraduate student, memang banyak perkara yang aku xtahu. So, aku akan minta tolong dia. Dia akan tolong dari mula sampai habis. Aku nak angkat barang pon dia tolong.. bukan barang berat pon. kalau aku buat salah masa experiment, dia akan fikirkan untuk aku. Aku tunggu jawapan je.  

Did that consider as taking advantage?? 

Walau apa pon, terima kasih banyak-banyak kepada beliau. :)
Banyak yang aku belajar dari dia. 

#Dia adalah seorang senior lab dekat sini :) 

The time has arrived! Bangkok #2

31 Januari 2013

This is the day..

cuak, nervous, sedih, happy, stress, takut, excited [--,] celaru sangat perasaan masa tu.

semua barang ready dah nk berlepas.. mental je belum ready lagi.

encik travel agensi yang baik hati book tiket MAS untuk kami :) (thanks kak Dila and encik travel agensi)

maka pada tarikh yang berkenaan, kami ke Kuala Lumpur International Airport..


berbekalkan semangat dari insan-insan tersayang.. tabahkan hati untuk terus tersenyum (poyo giler...mcm xbalik terus..haha)

Thanks semua yang hantar ke airport :') 

.

Lepas je gate.. posing lagi ambil gambar.. 

Kredit to ayahanda tercinta 

No turning back! Good bye Malaysia.. kami akan pulang dengan Ilmu yang baru :) 

#memory sungguh masa tu :')

Preparation to Bangkok

Ok, untuk internship ni..agak stress jugak. macam2 kena prepare.. masa pulak singkat.

ceklist

• Visa 
• Passport
• Dokumen berkaitan 
• Mental.. ok, ini sangat penting
• buku log, surat pengesahan bagai
• barang-barang (6bulan lama kan)
• makanan
• dan segala perkara yang berkaitan

actually banyak lagi kena prepare.. xlarat lah nak listkan. 

But the most stressful thing to prepare is Visa! call sana sini, email lah.. surat hilang lah.. 

Lepas je Visa siap.. fuhhh..lega :D 

counting hari je nak gerak ke Bangkok. 

#teringat pulak sebelum flight ke Bangkok, dekat rumah xsenang duduk.. T_T 

Bangkok story #1

Its been 3 and half month I've been in Bangkok for my internship. Wow!! Its a long time.. yeah. Can't wait to go home ^^, (to be specifically, 46 day more to go home)

First of all, "why Bangkok for internship??" " Ya Allah, Jauh nya.. kat Malaysia xde tempat ke?"

Ok, ini soalan common orang tanya.

Jawapan standard " Rezeki dekat sini, nak buat macam mana" sambil senyum.. :) or "Eh..Malaysia je? Xadventure lah" (ini jawapan bila dah malas sgt nk jawab)

Ok, behind the story.. actually, xde la nak pergi internship jauh2 kan.. melangkau negara pulak tu. But then, bila apply internship, semua company reject, xnak ambil perempuan lah, kami xoffer place for student lah.. macam2 lagi lah. Asal nya xplan pon semua ni.. tp..supervisor and ketua jabatan JST pon suggest teruskan je. Kami pon redah aje lah. Asalnya kami bertiga.. lepas pihak University Kasetsart setuju.. kami ajak lagi 2  org.. total 5. Maka bermulalah turun naik HEP untuk mohon.. kami mohon program mobility. Penat jugak turun naik HEP..nasib baik ada lift. Pegawai yang uruskan mobility kata xsure semua akan dapat. Masa tu kami semua pasrah je. Kalau ada rezeki, ada la.. kalau xde..menangis la carik tempat. Masa final pon sibuk lagi nk uruskan semua tu. Alhamdulillah.. selepas penantian almost 3 bulan kot, kami semua diterima.. Masa tu, muncul lah pertanyaan yang kami tidak pasti kenapa boleh ditanya.. antaranya,

"Korg ni ade kabel ke? mcm mne bole dpat?" (muke xpuas aty)

Aah..kitorg pakai kabel optik u :p

"Ala, mane aci korg dapat.. xajak pon"

eeh..kitorg da penah tnye sape yg nak join taw!

haha... aku xtahu lah kenapa orang boleh fikir macam tu. Kalau nak, kenalah usaha ye.


Ok..lepas final, balik rumah. dekat rumah stress jugak nak prepare untuk internship ni. Visa xbuat lg la.. surat xsampai lg la.. But anyway, we did it. (senyum bangga) :)

ok.. ini kisah di Malaysia..  :)


until next time ;)

fuhhhh... (tiup habuk)

Berzaman xbkak blog ni..
bz la konon..haha

ya sudahlah~

Ketika mimpimu yang begitu indah
Tak pernah terwujud ya sudahlah
Saat kau berlari mengejar anganmu
Dan tak pernah sampai ya sudahlah

Reff:
Apapun yang terjadi
Ku ‘kan slalu ada untukmu
Janganlah kau bersedih
Cause everythings gonna be ok

Satu dari sekian kemungkinan
Kau jatuh tanpa ada harapan
Saat itu raga kupersembahkan
Bersama jiwa cita-cita dan harapan

Kita sambung satu persatu sebab akibat
Tapi tenanglah mata hati kita kan lihat
Menuntun ke arah mata angin bahagia
Kau dan aku tahu jalan selalu ada

Juga ku tahu lagi problema kan terus menerjang
Bagai deras ombak yang menabrak karang
Namun ku tahu ku tahu kau mampu tuk tetap tenang
Hadapi bersamaku hingga akhir datang

Saat kau berharap keramahan cinta
Tak pernah kau dapat ya sudahlah yeah
Dengar ku bernyanyi lalalalala heyeyeyeyeyayaya
Dedum dedudedadedudidam semua ini belum beakhir

Back to Reff:

Satu ‘kan langkah langkah yang beriring
Genggam hati rangkul emosi
Genggamlah hatiku satukan langkah kita
Sama rasa tanpa pamrih
Ini cinta across the sea
Peluklah diriku terbang bersamaku
Melayang jauhh.. woo..woo.. yeeahhh.. (come fly with me, baby)

Ini aku dari ujung rambut menyusur jemari
Sosok ini yg menerima kelemahan hati
Yea.. aku cinta kau.. ini cinta kita
Cukup satu waktu yes untuk satu cinta

Satu cinta ini akan tuntun jalanku
Rapatkan jiwamu yo tenang disisiku
Rebahkan rasamu untuk yg ditunggu
Bahagia hingga ujung waktu

by: Bondan Prakoso and Fade 2 Black

simple recipe, great taste

3 step to make a cheese cake, with 3 ingredients..

250g cream cheese

susu creamer pekat.. (tin)

biscuit (oreo or etc)

1. kacau cream cheese wif susu smpai pekat.. 

2. wat base dlm bekas gune biskut (optionally.. ley gne biskut jacobs yg hancur2+ley gaul ngn susu..or butter)

3. curah aduanan selang seli dengan biskut oreo.. Done!
msok dlm fridge.. 

tgu sejuk n boleh makan :D

^^,

simple but nice.. 

*waiting for message*

^^,

p/s: still waiting....

Origami is not just a paper crane ^^,

 Origami adalah salah seni melipat kertas orang-orang Jepun. ia satu bentuk kraftangan tradisi yang telah lama bertapak di negara matahari terbit itu sejak kurun ke-17 lagi. Ia mula popular di luar Jepun pada pertengahan tahun 1900 dan sehingga kini ia telah mengalami evolusi menjadi salah satu bentuk kesenian moden. Melalui origami kita boleh mereka berbagai bentuk arca kertas. Kreativiti tidak terbatas..kita boleh menghasilkan berbagai gubahan melalui imaginasi dan kreativiti seperti haiwan, bunga, objek sehari-hari hinggalah bentuk manusia bahkan ekspresi muka..

itulah sedikit sebanyak definisi origami.. cmne la ak ni ley gler wat mende alah ni?? haha

sume sbb kebosanan...dan lme2 cam best plak..

(kak in..my sista yg introduce).. mle2 knal origami.. reti wat kapal, burung..haha..

then when i discover world of origami.. wow.. 

u can do sooo many things :D

instead, origami juga melatih diri untuk bersabar...haha.. sbb kdg2 ble lipat2 xjd, rse mcm nk rnyuk2 kan kertas tuh..seyes! 

 contoh nye nk wat orchid....-_-" 

jeles lh tgok org wat gler2 cntek..ak wat xlepas2..adeyh.. 

cer tgok neyh..gempak kan?? mcm real :o.. 

http://orchidcrazeme.blogspot.com/2011/09/wonderful-orchid-origami.html

yg ak mmpu wat ni je... lily~ success at 1st try...syabas!!haha

ok la tu kan.. 

yg ni plak roses.. comey2 je kan.. ;) *wink*

(xde ke org nk bg a bouquet of roses~) *berangan*

-roses-

besides, ley jgak isi mse lapang.. dr wat mende xberfaedah.. ley gak deco2 blik kan..haha.. nti2 la uplod gambo blik yg de bunge2 neyh..haha..

nti ley kumpul sume koleksi origami2 yg da wat.. kusudama, sunflower, roses, lily, cactus.. ^^,

p/s: I love u~

quando quando quando~

da lme gler xbkak blog neyh..kekeke...
mlas nk berblog+line cam #%@%@#%....

jom nyanyi dlu~

Tell me when will you be mine 
Tell me quando, quando, quando 
We can share a love divine 
Please don´t make me wait again 

When will you say ´yes´ to me? 
Tell me quando, quando, quando 
You mean happiness to me 
Oh, my love, please tell me when 

Ev´ry moment´s a day 
Ev´ry day seems a lifetime 
Let me show you the way 
To a joy beyond compare 

I can´t wait a moment more 
Tell me quando, quando, quando 
Say it´s me that you adore 
And then, darlin´, tell me when 

(instrumental strings and brass) 
Ev´ry moment´s a day 
Ev´ry day seems a lifetime 
Let me show you the way 
To a joy beyond compare 

I can´t wait a moment more 
Tell me quando, quando, quando 
Say it´s me that you adore 
And then, darlin´, tell me when 

Oh, my darlin´, tell me when 
Mmm, my darlin´, tell me when




agak2 nye...ble la kan?? Quando~

song by: Engelbert Humperdinck

raya haji bakal menjelang...

Di hari raya..
terkenang daku kepada si dia~ ='(

ok...mood : still down

erm...nak balek umah.. nk salam ngn mak, ayah.. abg, akak2, adik.. dak2 kcik..

nape xley blek...xde cuti pon..

T_T

* wishing for miracle to happen~ walopon xmungkin akn jd.. *sigh*

down T_T

31st Oct 2011

ok.. rni mang rse down sesangat..

mngu pas sptutnya cuti midsem, tp kne g ulu lubai, Limbang.. abes da cuti seminggu.. T_T

masih dlm mood xpat time kenyataan...

repot beratur menanti untuk di siapkan..

bgon2 pg ----> "repot xciap agy'

-----> "summary jurnal xwat agy"

em..g la klas... (g lmbat plak tu)

dlm klas ----> lapa sgt2, da de keroncong plak ni..ok, tgu klas abess jap.

ok, break time.. (senyum dgn sinar bru).. melangkah ykin ke food court..

smpai FC, T_T

XDE PAPE MAKANAN PON!!

T_T

g lab ict smbung wat repot...da ciap g print..

PC kat libry poblem T_T (slow abess la)

msok clas lambat agy...

lam clas, mang dnga xdnga jela lect ngajo~

wat kad raye agy >_<

bis je clas g ict blek...wat keje..solat then g FC blek.

msih mengharap de mkanan.

emm..xde pape gak..oder jela.

nasi xde..mee je de.

xkesa la, asal ley mkn T_T

ptg lab plak...

lab mang da xde smngt tros >_<

smbung mini project plak...

blek snggah FC... ABC pon bole la.

blek blik.. BLACKOUT!! ok...xtaw nk ckp pe da.

-_-"

mak ='(
nak blek.......... mngu ni raye aji T_T

xley blek pon...

Marriage ^_^

On Marriage in Islam

by Dr. Sherif Mohammed

By getting married you are not just getting a wife, you are getting your whole world. From now until the rest of your days your wife will be your partner, your companion, and your best friend.

She will share your moments, your days, and your years. She will share your joys and sorrows, your successes and failures, your dreams and your fears. When you are ill, she will take the best care of you; when you need help, she will do all she can for you;

When you have a secret, she will keep it; when you need advice, she will give you the best advice. She will always be with you: when you wake up in the morning the first thing your eyes will see will be hers; during the day, she will be with you, if for a moment she is not with you by her physical body, she will be thinking of you, praying for you with all her heart, mind, and soul; when you go to sleep at night, the last thing your eyes will see will be her; and when you are asleep you will still see her in your dreams. In short, she will be your whole world and you will be her whole world.

The best description that I personally have ever read describing the closeness of the spouses to each other is the Qur'anic verse which says: "they are your garments and you are their garments" (Surah Al Baqarah 2:187).

Indeed, spouses are like garments to each other because they provide one another with the protection, the comfort, the cover, the support, and the adornment that garments provide to humans. Just imagine a journey in the winter of Alaska without garments! Our spouses provide us with the same level of comfort, protection, cover, and support in the journey of our lives on this earth as garments would do in the Alaskan journey.

The relationship between the spouses is the most amazing of all human relations: the amount of love and affection, intimacy and closeness, mercy and compassion, peace and tranquillity that fills the hearts of the spouses is simply inexplicable. The only rational explanation for these most amazing of all human feelings is that: it is an act of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, "And Allah has made for you Mates (and Companions) of your own nature ..." (Surah Al Nahl 16:72) Only our Almighty Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala in His Infinite Power, Boundless Mercy, and Great Wisdom can create and ingrain these amazing and blessed feelings in the hearts of the spouses. In fact Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is reminding those who search for His signs in the universe that these feelings in the hearts of the spouses are among the signs that should guide humans to His existence as He says in the Qur'an, "And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquillity with them and He has put love and mercy between your hearts: verily in that are signs for those who reflect." (Surah Al Rum 30:21)

But Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala knows that the human heart is not a static entity, it is sometimes weak and at times dynamic. Feelings can and do change with time. Love may wither and fade away. The marital bond might weaken if not properly cared for. Happiness in marriage cannot be taken for granted; continuous happiness requires constant giving from both sides. For the tree of marital love to remain alive and keep growing, the soil has to be sustained, maintained, watered and nurtured.

Remember that our Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam had found the time to go out to the desert and race with his wife Aisha. She out ran him but later after she had gained some weight, he out ran her.

Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam took his wife to watch the young Ethiopians playing and dancing their folk dances. The show of emotions is necessary to keep the marital bond away from rusting and disintegrating.

Remember that you will be rewarded by Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for any emotions you show to your wife as the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "one would be rewarded for anything that he does seeking the pleasure of Allah even the food that he puts in the mouth of his wife."

Never underestimate the importance of seemingly little things as putting food in your wife's mouth, opening the car's door for her, etc. Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam used to extend his knee to his wife to assist her up to ride the camel.

Try to always find some time for both of you to pray together. Strengthening the bond between you and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala is the best guarantee that your own marital bond would always remain strong. Having peace with Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala will always result in having more peace at home.

Remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam gave glad tidings for those couples who wake up at night to pray together. The Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam even urged the spouse who rises up first to wake the other spouse up even by throwing cold water on his/her face.

Always try your best to be good to your wife by words and by deeds. Talk to her, smile to her, seek her advice, ask for her opinion, spend quality time with her and always remember that the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam said "the best of you are those who are best to their wives."

Finally, it is common that spouses vow to love and honor their spouses until death do them part. I do believe that this vow is good or even great, but not enough! It is not enough that you love your wife. You have to love what she loves as well. Her family, her loved ones must also become your loved ones. Don't be like my colleague who was unhappy about his wife's parents coming to visit for few weeks. He candidly said to her "I don't like your parents." Naturally, she angrily looked at him straight in the eye and said " I don't like yours either"... Also, it is not enough that you love her until death do you part. Love should never end and we do believe there is life after death where those who did righteousness in this world will be joined by their spouses (Surah Al Zukhruf 43:70) and offsprings.

The best example in this regard is the Prophet Salallaahu 'aliahi wa'sallaam whose love for Khadija, his wife of 25 years extended to include all those she loved and continued even after her death. It was many years after her death and he never forgot her and whenever a goat was slaughtered in his house he would send portions of it to Khadija's family and friends and whenever he felt that the visitor at the door might be Khadija's sister Hala, he would pray saying "O Allah let it be Hala."

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MARRIAGE IN ISLAM.

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Islam is a strong advocate of marriage. There are no religious clerical appointments where one must be celibate like for example a priest or nun. The prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said "There is no celibacy in Islam." The prophet has also said, "Marriage is my tradition whosoever keeps away from it is not from amongst us".

Marriage is a moral safeguard as well as a social building block. Through marriage, families are established and the family is considered to be the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only valid or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle of the road position to sexual relations. It neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be, so that we remain civilized and equity reigns in society. Marriage also acts as an outlet for physical needs and regulates it as well.

The purpose of Marriage.

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The word "Zawj" is used in the Quran to mean a pair or a mate. In general it's usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is so that men and women can love one another, provide company to each other, procreate and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of God.

* Marriage serves as a means to emotional and physical gratification. It is also a form of worship because it is obeying God and His messenger - i.e. Marriage is seen as the only possible way for the sexes to unite under God. One could choose to live in sin but by choosing marriage one is displaying obedience to God.

Marriage is a "Mithaq" - a solemn covenant or agreement. It should not be taken lightly. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. Your partner should be your choice for life. One should be mature enough to understand the demands of marriage so that the union can be a lasting one.

For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met:

1) Consent of both parties.
2) "Mahr" - a gift from the groom to the bride.
3) Witnesses.
4) The marriage should be publicized. (It should never be kept secret as this can lead to suspicion and troubles within the community.)

Is Marriage obligatory?

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According to Imams Abu Hanifah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Malik ibn Anas, marriage is recommended, however for certain individuals it becomes Wajib (obligatory). Imam Shaafi'i considered it to be nafl or mubah (preferable). The general opinion is that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she does not marry they will commit Zina (sex outside of marriage), then marriage becomes obligatory. If a person has strong sexual urges then it becomes obligatory for that person to marry. Marriage should not be put off or delayed, especially if one has the means to do so.

A man, however should not marry if he does not possess the means to maintain a wife and future family, if he will not consummate the marriage, if he dislikes children, or if he feels marriage will seriously affect his religious obligation. The general rule is that the Prophet (pbuh) enjoined people to marry. He said "When one marries, they have fulfilled half of their religion , so let them fear God regarding the remaining half." This Hadith is narrated by Anas ibn Malik. Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from wrongful actions and upholds the family unit.

Selection of a partner:

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The choice of a partner should be the one with the most "Taqwa" (piety). The Prophet recommended suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple is permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a desireful one. This ruling does not contradict the Ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze.

- The couple, however is not permitted to be alone in a closed room or to go out together alone. As the hadith says "When a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan.

- There is no dating or living in defacto relationships with each other before they commit to each other seriously. There is to be no physical relationship before marriage. The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rates to understand this point. e.g. the couple know each other for years, are intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. "Romance" often dies out very quickly when we have to deal with the real world. Unrealistic expectations often contributes to problems within relationships. It is better to focus on compatability of the couple and critical evaluation than solely physical attraction.

Consent of parties.

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There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter.

One of the conditions of a valid marriage is consent of the couple. Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.

The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under Maliki school. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The Prophet said "The Widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained. The Prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

The husband/wife relationship.

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The wife's rights - the husband's obligations.

(1) Maintenance

The husband is responsible for the wife's maintenance. This right is established by authority of the Quran and Sunnah. It is inconsequential whether the wife is a Muslim , non-Muslim, rich, poor, healthy or sick. A component of his role is to bear the financial responsibility of the family in a generous way so that his wife may be assured security.

The wife's maintenance entails her right to lodging, clothing, food and general care, like medication, hospital bills etc. He must provide for her where he resides himself according to his means. The wife's lodging must be adequate so as to ensure her privacy, comfort and independence.

If a wife has been used to a maid or is unable to attend to her household duties, it is the husbands duty to provide her with a maid if he can afford to do so. The Prophet is reported to have said: "The best Muslim is one who is the best husband."

(2) "Mahr"

The wife is entitled to a marriage gift that is her own. This may be prompt or deferred depending on the agreement between the parties. A marriage is not valid without Mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. It can be non-material like teaching her to read the Quran. " Mahr" is a gift from the groom to the bride. This is the Islamic law, unlike some cultures whereby the bride's parents pay the future husband to marry the daughter. This practice degrades women and is contrary to the spirit of Islam. There is no specification in the Qur'an as to what or how much the Mahr has to be. It depends on the parties involved.

(3) Non-material rights.

A husband is commanded by the law of God to treat his wife with equity, respect her feelings and show kindness and consideration, especially if he has another wife. The Prophet's Last Sermon stresses kindness to women.

The wife's obligations - the husband's rights.

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One of the main duties of the wife is to contribute to the success and happiness of the marriage. She should be attentive to the comfort and wellbeing of her husband and vice-versa. The Quranic Ayah which illustrates this point is:

"Our Lord, grant us wives and offspring who will be the coolness of our eyes and guide us to be models for the righteous"

The wife should be trustworthy and honest. She cannot deceive her husband by deliberately avoiding conceiving. She should not have any sexual intimacy with anyone other than her husband. She should not receive or entertain strange males in the house without his knowledge and consent. She should not accept gifts from other men without his approval. This is meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion and gossip. She shouldn't dispose of his belongings without his permission.

A wife should make herself attractive to her husband and be responsive to his advances. The wife should not refuse her husband without reason as this may lead to marital problems and worse still - tempt the man to adultery. The husband, of course, should take into account the wife's health and consideration of circumstances.

"Obedience."

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The purpose of 'obedience' in a relationship is to keep the family unit running as smoothly as possible. Obedience does not mean blind obedience. It is subject to conditions:

(a) It is required only if what is asked from the wife is within the permissible categories of action.

(b) It must be maintained only with regard to matters that fall under the husband's rights.

source :

http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html

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so..jgelah aurat anda ^_^

hate vs love

❤ Girl's Language :

If She Don't Text You :

- It's Because She's Waiting For You To Text Her

When She Walks Away From You Mad :

- Follow Her

When Shes Quiet :

- Ask Her What's Wrong

When She Ignores You :

- Give Her Your Attention

When She Pushes YOU AWAY :

- Pull Her BACK

When You See Her Crying :

- Wipe Her Tears & Ask What's Wrong

When She Says Go Away :

- Just Go Close To Her & Give Her Hug ❤

* tp jgn ngade2 nk wat cmneyh lau lom kawen ;p